Finding Yourself in Midlife: My Simple Rules for Happiness

Well it simple really. Im in my mid fifities and you reflect. You reflect on who you are, how you got here, things you have’nt done and things you have. Depending on your life it is as though, as a male you measure yourself on your achievements or lack of achievements.

This is where who you are materialises on your happiness. For last few years I have been from depressed and jubilant. I have searched myself and my soul.

So im doing this for myself, I’m doing this for anybody who questions themself and, or the world around you. I’m doing this as I feel invisible and alone in this world and want to see whether I am .

What have I discovered?

Life that seems complicated can be very simple. I spent the last few years finding myself as I already mentioned. So I have broken it down to a set of values into blocks of three. Rules if you like, rules in which I live by (or try to).

1 The physical

My body is to work. I don’t mean for money neccesary. But your health, your appearance, work on those you love.

2 The mental

The mind is to learn, learn who you are, learn where you are headed. Learn to just feed the mind. Knowledge feeds the soul. The more you learn the more you can achieve. The more you find yourself you may find a possible happier you and happier future.

3 The emotional

This is love. Love of youeself, love of those you love, love of the world, love of life. Open your eyes and ears and all your senses to the world around you. I found a world I never saw before.

These 3 rules for my inner self are aiding me on a daily basis to be a better person. Yes I feel invisible but I no longer think it is me but those who are more self indulged and blinded by their own reflection to take note of people around them. If like me you feel invisible these rules of inner self may help you. As I mentioned earlier life is much simpler than you think. Society has made life complex. Others say quite often it is’nt that simple. However ie truly is.

The outer self

So as I said I broke life into rules of 3. The inner self above and the outer self. These rules are how I treat others and myself on a daily basis. You may not agree with them, but for me they work. Perhaps we should all note our own rules. Rules place you on a path in lfe. I personally wish I realised this many years ago and now waiting until mid life struck me like a grenade of emotions. So here are my rules for myself…..

1 Born with nothing

Although it appears more of a fact than a rule. It is a rule of rememberance. A rule that signifies to you the start. The start of anything is a rule. So born with nothing and you leave with nothing. It is what you do inbetween that is relevant. The mark you leave upon this world. The person who you are gets left behind in the hearts and memories of others.

2 Chase your dreams

Always chase your dreams, and those dreams through life change, sometimes through discovery, sometimes through age or just sometimes through choice. But my rule isnt just about my dreams it applies to everybodies dreams. If you can assist and help anothers dreams do it. Help others to achieve as much as you wish to achieve. Spread dreams. Think about it as it affects rule 1 the mark you leave behind.

3 Consequences

This is the major problem in the world that does enhance the complexity of life. Life is simple if we give basic thought to our actions before hand. Everything we do has consequences. Are those consequences going to hurt or affect another in a negative manner? Therefore rule number 2 is needed.

My simple rules are interconnected. But this is how I run my life and yes it is simple. But harmless to others. Keeping my life simple it gives me time to know where in my life I have got it all so wrong. Or even if I have.

So what next?

Well I want anybody who reads this to come on this emotional real world journey with me and see if anybody can relate. Maybe somebody has been through or is going through the same. Maybe just maybe someone may agree with my life rules and can familiarise.

But my journey will include everything from alcohol abuse, maental torment, cars and finance. Even some political views. Although political views will upset an awful lot of people due to how I relate to the ripples of the past. Science and our landscape another issue.

Maybe just maybe I wont feel alone? So now you know this terrible writer in his mid fifties is finding the internet and hopefully if you stick with it sense will come.

Thank you if you got this far……..